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Showing posts with label Health. Show all posts

Thursday, January 21


Eating disorders

Anorexia nervorsa and Bulimia nervosa


part 1

This eating disorder occurs mostly among adolescent girls between 12 and 18 years old, but can also occur among boys and older people. Adolescent girls become conscious of their bodies and start believing that they are too fat, even though they may be within the healthy mass for their height.

They start eating very little food. They lose weight very quickly and the success encourages them to lose more weight by eating even less. Their diet becomes the main focus in their lives. To lose more weight, they also increase the amount of exercise they do and usually exercise alone.

They become so concerned with what they eat, that they start collecting recipes or even start cooking meals for their family. They often focus so much on food that they constantly read about good and nutrition to gain as much knowledge as possible.
They have symptoms such as tiredness, hyperactivity, dizziness, etc.

On the other hand, people suffering from Bulimia nervosa usually have emotional problems. They eat large amounts of food, but immediately after eating they get rid of the food by vomiting. The also take laxatives to get rid of the food. Some sufferers will chew the food and spit it out before swallowing.

People suffering from bulimia nervosa eat vast amounts of food. They do not want to eat so much, but cannot help themselves. They are unable to control their food intake. This eating disorder is damaging to health.

This has been proven to affect a person's health tremendously, and research has proven that eating disorders can endanger one's health.

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Environmental health and diseases

Common diseases


part 1

Cold- normally known a light infection of the upper respiratory passages. It is most contagious where there are many people together; in classrooms, community halls, or in overcrowded homes. Symptoms include a blocked and runny nose, teary eyes, sneezing, coughing a sore throat, hoarseness and listleness.

Another common disease is flu; short for influenza. It is a severe viral infection of the respiratory system and is also very contagious. Symptoms include blocked or runny nose, loss of appetite, nausea, weakness, and depression. In the critical stage one should stay in bed.

Tubercolosis is also widespread in South Africa. It spreads more rapidly where many people live together in a confined space. Symptoms include fever with chills, night sweat, weight loss, and the coughing of blood.

Doctors say that TB also spreads more easily when people do not get enough of the right kinds of food to eat. People are infected with TB from contact with other infected people. Cows can also contract TB. If a person drinks infected milk they can also get TB from the milk.

Another health threatening disease is cholera, which is caused by a bacterium. It infects people's intestines, causing diarrhoea, vomitting and leg cramps. Cholera is contracted when someone eats food, or drinks water that has been contaminated with the bacteria. Cholera could be mild or even without symptoms, but a severe case can lead to death unless there is immediate treatment.

The diarrhoea and vomitting brought on by the infection quickly leaves the body without enough fluid. The dehydration and shock can kill a person within hours. It can be treated effectively and very simply. If an infected person is given fluids immediately after the first symptoms show, the disease can be completely cured.

Simple water won't do, however. A mixture of sugar and certain salts that the body needs mus be mixed with clean water and taken in large amounts. If this cure is used as soon as possible, fewer than 1% of cholera patients will die.

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Health and fitness

The food you eat can affect your health

fitness in health

part 1

Heart diseases are common among people in countries with a Western lifestyle than among people who have other kinds of eating habits.

Scientists believe that the types of food the different nationalities eat can determine the kinds of diseases people get.
Heart disease, and cancer can be linked to diets high in fat and low in fibre.

Sometimes being overweight, or obese, runs in certain families. Some people's bodies use energy they get from food more slowly, in order to retain ad much fat as possible. If a parent suffers from this kind of obesity, the child has 40% chance of being overweight. If both parents suffer from this kind of obesity, the child has 80% chance of also being overweight.

Research has also proven, however, that controlling what you eat and how much you eat is important. One has to control their appetite from an early age, because obesity can b dangetous to one's health. Obesity can lead to high blood pressure (hypertension), which in turn can lead to heat attacks, and strokes.

Obesity places a burden on the heart because it has to work so much harder. Some doctors believe diseases of the heart and blood vessels would drop by approximately 25% if obesity in Western countries wad eliminated.

Further research has also proven that a person with an active lifestyle loses weight more easily than a person who is not active. It is helpful to excersise when you want to lose weight.

Even a fast walk for half an hour each day is enough excersise to get rid of fat. Fat people, however, seldom take part in excersise, sport, because they find it difficult.

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Monday, January 18


Marriage and partnerships

Women fall prey to HIV riks in marriages

becoming one

part 1

Psychologist Erik Erickson described the central psycho-social challenge of early adulthood as the resolution of a tension between the drive towards intimacy, on the one hand, and isolation, on the other. This tension is referred to as intimacy versus isolation.

As part of their quest for intimacy, many young adults may marry in their mid-twenties, although this varies considerably across settings. For example, in many Western societies, there is a growing tendency for young adults to opt for cohabitation rather than marriage, and for marriages to take place later in life.

In other societies, in India, for instance; marriages involving teenagers are not common. For many young people, marriages enhances their relationships with their partners and also enhances their sense of identity and fulfillment. Indeed, studies have shown that married people appear to be more contented and satisfied with life than single people.
The most contented are married women in their early twenties who do not have children.
Nonetheless, for many young adults marriage could also result in relationship conflicts, disillusionment with partners, constraining attachments, and even violence. Indeed, in South Africa, women face extraordinarily high levels of violence and sexual assaults from their partners.

It has been reported that as many as one in every three women is abused by her partner.
Additionally, these women frequently face an indifferent judicial and police system routinely denies them assistance and redress. Obviously, family violence will influence a young adult's development and expression of intimacy, as well as his/her general psycho-social development.

Currently, violence is not only potential threat to the expression and development of intimacy. Given the interconnections of intimacy in adult sexuality, the high levels of HIV/AIDS infection in this country, particularly among-st young people, may also have a profound impact on the expression and development of intimate partnerships during early adulthood.

However, in-order for any definitive statements to be made regarding the relationship between the current high levels of HIV/AIDS infections and patterns of intimacy during early adulthood, there is a need for more focused research that specifically examines this relationship.
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Health fact

A certain amount of personal distress is healthy

true health

part 1

Suffering often accompanies psychological disorders. In cases where anxiety and depression are the prominent symptoms.

People often struggle with unbearable negative thoughts about themselves and their world. In these cases it is fitting that personal distress is associated with what constitutes a mental disorder.

But once again there are exceptions. Individuals who suffer from antisocial personality disorder (APD) often do not feel appropriate forms of distress .

 Individuals with APD are likely to find pleasure in inflicting pain on others and they are often violent and abusive in their relationships with others.

In addition to this, if personal distress criterion of abnormality, this also implies that all personal distress is inappropriate and unhealthy; but is not the case.
Distress is often a normal response to difficult or dangerous situations. For example, we would expect an individual to endure an immense amount of personal distress if they were to lose a loved one.

This, however, is clearly a healthy response to the situation where distress is an important part of bereavement and the mourning process

. As has been shown in using the criterion of statistical deviance, maladaptiveness and personal distress, there is no clear cut answer the problem of what is normal and what is not.

This is an ongoing problem in the field of psychology, and is reflected in how boundaries of what constitutes normality have shifted throughout history.

 Homosexuality, for instance, up until relatively, recently, used to be a diagnosable mental disorder because there was no longer been regarded a mental disorder.

This is because there is no clear link to be found be between mental disorders, abnormality and homosexuality. Broader political socio-cultural forces have been shown to have an important impact on how we view mental or psychological disorders.
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When to know there is a loose screw

Schizophrenia shares a number of symptoms with some indigenous forms of so-called illness in South Africa, such as ukuthwasa (ancestral calling) and amafufunyana (spirit possession).

This has led to a lot of debate around whether to understand the present symptoms from within the context of the indigenous healing system- where traditional healers such as inyangas and sangomas would be used or from the perspective of the biomedical model, where the individual showing the symptoms would be diagnosed with schizophrenia.

It appears that the answer lies in being able to make use of the strengths of both models.
Schizophrenia is a condition characterised by disorganised and fragmented emotions, behaviours and cognitions. One of the most common misperceptions about schizophrenia is that it refers to people with a split personality.
So-called split personality is a disorder usually called dissociative identity disorder and refers to a condition in which an individual develops two or more seperate identities or ego states. Each identity exists seperately and had its own set of emotional and behavioral characteristics.

However, this phenomenon does not occur in schizophrenia. Schizophrenics suffer from a mental disorder that is more correctly characterised by the splitting of emotions and thoughts. The schizophrenic condition is characterized by gross distortions of reality testing, leaving such individuals feeling disoriented and fragmented, a condition most commonly called psychosis .

Schizophrenic symptoms can be divided into two categories: positive and negative symptoms. Positive symptoms refer to the presence of behaviours and feelings normally not present while negative symptoms refer to the absence of behaviours and feelings normally present in a normal individual.

The most common symptoms associated with schizophrenia are delusions and also hallucinations, which are defined by false sensory stimulus for example, one claiming to have seen aliens or that the radio is giving him a command.
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Cerebral malaria and Bilharzia

paraites are dangerous

part 1

Even if not fatal, cerebral malaria may cause severe and sometimes permanent structural damage to the brain and nervous system. Furthermore, both malaria and bilharzia considerably weaken and fatigue the body, which affects an individuals mental health. The effect on children and feotuses is particularly devastating.

Psychologically, there can be little doubt that parasites affect the cognitive development and the socialisation of children. Being rundown and/ or bedridden leads to absence from school and being unable to take part in social interactions and events.
Developmentally, parasite infection may negatively impact the acquisition of skills in various domains in pre-school years, and the later development that normally follows on from these foundations. For example, motor development precedes and facilitates the development of language and skills, which involve the exchange of ideas and viewpoints and enable the formation of concepts.

Thus, the damage to psychological functioning is likely to be linked to the time of acquisition of the infection, it is intensity and duration. It is, however, difficult to find evidence clearly linking parasitic infections to cognitive deficits in contexts that are fraught with other risk factors for development such as poverty and poor nutrition.

The evidence is mounting, however, and a recent pilot study tracking school-based control of bilharzia as well ad other parasites, in endemic areas showed that there was an association between grade repetition and high parasite load.
A more recent publication looked at the energy cost of parasitic infections in young children.

This showed a negative correlation between infectious disease and IQ at a national level. Further research is needed to establish a casual relationship.
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Tubercolosis (TB)

A health Alert

tb can kill

part 1

TB is a contagious disease, which spreads through the air. The most common form is pulmonary TB which is known as the TB of the lung. When an infected person sneezes, spits, talks or coughs, that person releases TB germs, known as bacilli, into the air. Only a small number of bacilli needs to be inhaled for a new infection to occur.

However, people infected with TB will not necessarily become ill. The immune system protects the body against TB , and bacilli can lie dormant in the body for years.

When a person has a weakend immune system, they are more likely to become ill. Drug to cure TB have been available for 50 years.

Currently, th best known are isoniazid and rifampicin. In order for the drugs to work, however, they have to be taken regularly for a long period of time which lasts from six to eight months.

If people take the drugs for a short time and then stop, or take the drugs irregularly, strains of TB develop that are resistant to those drugs.
There are now increasing rates of multi-drug resistant TB (MDR-TB), which is defined as TB that does not respond to isoniazid and rifampicin. These drug-resistant strains of TB can be spread to other people. This can have very serious consequences, as it risks MDR-TB becoming a potentially incurable epidemic.

Every year, 450 000 new MDTR-TB cases are estimated to occur globally.
In addition, MDR-TB treatment is very expensive and causes severe side effects.

TB spreads rapidly in poor countries, for complex reasons. Although TB is a well understood physical problem, the factors that contribute to it its continuing spread are economic, social and psychological.

These factors operate at range a range of levels. Poor people are exposed to unhealthy working and unhealthy living conditions, and are often poorly nourished. This makes them vulnerable to becoming infected with TB. Poverty also limits access to, and utilisation of medical treatment.

In South Africa, both poverty and TB have been divided unequally along racial lines. As a result, hard workers, particularly black workers, have been hardest hit by the disease. This was fuelled by migration, urbanisation, and overcrowding.
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Sunday, January 17


Nutrition is a vital aspect of our health

Healthy nutrition enhances a healthy lifestyle

The risk of nutrition-related health problems increases in later life, either as a result of impaired food intake or reduced nutrient utilisation. At this stag of life, th stomach mucosa (lining) deteriorates, which results in less acid and pepsin secretion and, ultimately, a reduction in the bioavailibility of calcium, iron, folate and vitamin B 12.

Post-menopausal women need increased calcium to protect against osteoporosis as their oestrogen levels drop, resulting in greater bone loss. Overall, older adults needed similar intakes to younger adults of most vitamins and minerals, but they usually need less energy-dense food as their activity levels decline.
Therefore, a nutrient-dense diet is a high priority for older people. Nutrient deficiencies in older adults can exacerbate both physiological and cognitive deterioration.

Adolescence is considered to be a nutritionally vulnerable phase for several reasons.

Firstly, there is an increased demand for macronutrients and micronutrients to meer dramatic increase in physical growth and cognitive development.

Secondly, changes in lifestyle, body esteem and food habits affect adolescents' eating nutrient intake.

These shifts may result in pathological eating behavior, which environmental influences may impact on dietary practices.

Thirdly, there are special nutrient needs associated with participation in sports, adolescent pregnancy, development of an eating disorder, excessive dieting and the use of alcohol and drugs.
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Freedom to the mind

There is compelling evidence that an inability to adapt to stress is associated with a number of mental and physical illnesses. Experimental and clinical evidence implicates stress as a major predisposing factor in depression and other severe psychiatric disorders.

The repeated release of stress hormones disrupts normal levels of serotonin, the neurochemical involved feelings of well-being. Low serotonin levels are associated with depression. Stress also has significant effects on brain functioning, particularly on memory, concentration and learning.

Stress has also been implicated in heart disease through activation of the sympathetic nervous system which leads to constriction of arteries, blood becoming stickier, release of fat into the bloodstream. People utilize a variety of mechanisms to cope with, manage or reduce the stress produced from daily hassles or life changes and events.

Adaptive reaction have been identified as behaviours that are designed to manage th daily hassles that people encounter through, for example; exercising, meditating, talking to others, Crying and going on holiday. Adaptive reactions can also be classified as problem or emotion-focused.

With problem focused reactions- another method identified to reduce stress, people will typically identify what is causing them to feel stressed, confront it and plan the best way to manage their stress. These reactions require rational thinking and self-control.

On the other hand, 'emotion-focused reactions' are directed at efforts to avert negative emotions and boost self control.

 There are a number of practical things that we can do to reduce stress.
 Firstly, a sound knowledge of stress helps us identify our sources of stress.

Secondly, healthy lifestyle changes should be considered. These include regular exercise, restructuring priorities, increasing leisure and developing good social networks.

Also, important is a healthy diet which includes a variety of whole grains, vegetables, and fruits, low in fat and free of excessive alcohol, caffeine and tobacco.

A third aspect is engaging in healthy psychological behaviours  such as discussing and expressing feelings of anger and frustration, being optimistic and keeping a balanced perspective on life.
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STRESS - most difficult aspect to deal with

A health hazard

Stress has become a common feature of modern living and is closely related to risk behaviours such as smoking, alcohol- and drug abuse. The effects of stress directly affects our functioning and are responsible for many of the problems that we experience with our health.

Stress receives increasing attention in popular media. There has also been a phenomenal increase in the availability of self-help books to assist both lay people and professionals to understand, manage and prevent this growing problem. No wonder stress has been dubbed in 'millennium malady'

Stress has been used to describe a variety of negative feelings and reactions that accompany threatening or challenging situations. Generally, stress is a set of physiological, psychological and behavioral reactions serving an adaptive function. Hans Seyle (1982) points out that few people define the concept of stress in th same way.

According to Seyle, an important aspect of stress is that a wide variety of dissimilar situations are capable of producing the stress response, which includes fatigue, effort, pain, fear, and even success. This has led to several definitions of stress, each of which highlights different aspects of stress.

Traditionally, stress research involved the body's reaction to stressors and cognitive processes that influence the perception of stress. According to this definition; stress refers to physiological and phsycological responses or reactions to certain demanding situations, events or circumstances. These stressors may be demanding life events, for example; death, job loss, divorce, or a motor vehicle accident, chronic situations or catastrophic events.

Another approach defining stress has been to focus on how the relationship between the individual and their environment may place an excessive demand on the individual's resources. According to this view, known as the transactional theory of stress; the cognitive appraisal of stress is a two-part process which involves a primary and a secondary appraisal.

It has been proven that stress causes a serious deterioration in ones health and can lead to mental disorders that slow or affect the functioning of the brain, and therefore the functioning of one's body. Stress has been identified by many phsycologists and theorists to be a serious health hazard.
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Living with more than the virus

Studies show that people who are infected with HIV are at a greater risk of developing a mental disorder. This occurs at two levels, firstly the stress of knowing ones positive status , often regarded as a death sentence, together with the stigma that accompanies the illness, may trigger an acute stress reaction; depression and/ or anxiety, with accompanying risk of suicide.

Secondly; people in final stages of infection may suffer from dementia, delirium and psychotic disorders as brain cells are destroyed by the virus, as well as by opportunistic infections such as meningitis.

Hiv infection can result in mental disorders through a variety of mechanisms.

A great deal of evidence indicates that people with HI virus are significantly more stressed and distressed than the general population.

The most common stress-related diagnoses are depression, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and acute stress disorder (ASD)

Furthermore, having family members infected with HIV is likely to impact on the psychological well-being of the rest of the family due to stigma and premature death. Children orphaned by Aids are most vulnerable to economic hardships, challenges to their social and emotional development, as well as other psychosocial consequences.

Grief over death of a parent, fear of the future, seperation from sibblings, and distress about worsening economic circumstances and HIV/AIDS-related discrimination and isolation often results in depression  and anxiety as well as symptoms of posttraumatic disorder (PSTD).

This has ben confirmed in most instances as putting much strain on the health of the people who are living with the various as being stigmatized and judged by society puts pressure on them.

 Most end up having healtu deffects due to the psychological dsorders imposed by depression and or acute stress.

Thi HIV pandemic is also one of the leading socio-economic factors in and around Soutj Africa and therefore causes anserious and extreme deteroriation in an individuals' health, both the inividuals infectes and those affected.
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Health hinderances in physical development

Health hinderances in physical development

Susceptibility to diseases during late adulthood

part 1

Research among adults in the United States has indicated that despite th onset of some physical decline, most individuals in the late period of late adulthood rate their health as good or excellent. However, in South Africa, th experience of health my vary widely depending on socio-economic status, gender, and whether people live in an urban or rural settlement.

Adults in this age group may experience a decline in health conditions owing to injuries and infections, and an increase of non-communicable diseases. Generally, the increased susceptibility to illnesses during physical development is largely resulting from progressive degeneration of the body. In South Africa, however, many older people who have experienced a lifetime of poor diet, arduous physical labour, multiple pregnancies, and inadequate reproductive health care have even greater susceptibility to ill health.

In this age group, major causes of illnesses, disability and death are strokes, tuberculosis (TB), heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. About 90% of older adults have considerable annual medical expenses, with few having any medical insurance.

Many older adults rely on rely upon the assistance of their family and the state to meet rising medical expenses.

During late adulthood, the older adult is likely to have retired from full-time occupation, which could result in a range of economic adjustments. The physical decline brought on by aging reduces an individual's ability to contribute to inter-generational households, and to remain economically self-sufficient.

Older people, particularly those living in rural areas, are often the poorest and most vulnerable to diseases than those groups residing in developing countries.
In South Africa, 4.5% of the population receive a government pension.

But, while a government pension is meant to support one elderly person, it is often the case that many other family members rely on that pension as well.

Moreover, current estimates suggest that 40% of households are headed by an older person in the absence of parents in early or middle adulthood, with this proportion rapidly increasing because of the HIV/AIDS pandemic.

Th old age-financial grant is arguably a lifeline to a substantial number of households in South Africa. Unfortunately, this often leads to elderly people being abused for access to this money.
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Health risks

Health defects in cognitive development

health development

part 1

During middle adulthood, the individual becomes increasingly susceptible to the risk of various diseases, such as cardiovascular diseases, which include cardiac disorders, arteriosclerosis and hypertension; various forms of cancer, arthritis and respiratory diseases.

This has increased susceptibility to illnesses and diseases during the cognitive and physical development stages, this largely results from the increasing degeneration of the body. Nonetheless, research evidence shows that people's living conditions and lifestyles have significant influences on their health.

For example, heavy smoking and drinking have been implicated in various cardiovascular diseases. Furthermore, it appears that stress associated with certain lifestyles- such as hyper-competitiveness and social isolation and living conditions, such as unemployment and living in poverty-stricken and violent communities contribute significantly to the health problems of middle adulthood, particularly to cardiovascular diseases and depression .

However, the way in which individuals perceive and respond to the stressful events with which they are confronted also influences the impact on their health. For example, individuals who perceive a potentially stressful event as a challenge that they can deal with, are much less likely than others to be adversely affected by it.

Contrary to a belief held by many, cognitive functioning does not show any dramatic decline during middle adulthood. On the whole, during middle adulthood, the individuals cognitive abilities may be as good as during early adulthood. Some research even shows that reasoning and verbal skills may actually improve.

For scholars and scientists the period from 40 to 60 years is characterised by fairly steady intellectual productivity or output, which is generally well above the levels attained by their counterparts who are in their twenties. To an extent health deffects cause a decline in an individual's cognitive functioning.
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sexual risk 

part 1

It is now widely recognized that HIV/AIDS is one of the biggest challenges that South Africa is faced with. Sexual relations that involve young people have increasingly stepped into the spotlight. As postulated by LoveLife (2002), a project that is aimed only at adressing HIV/AIDS and lifeskills education mostly for adolescents and young South Africans, with approximately 60% of all the adults who contract HIV are said to acquire this virus before the age of 25.

Moreover, national surveys conducted annually have further speculated that 51% of 12-17 year olds who are sexually active have reported their first sexual encounters of penetrative sex to have been experienced at 14 years or earlier, with these kinds of people also reporting to have had multiple sexual partners.
The increase in the rate of teenage pregnancy has not come as a surprise neither is the fact that it has been highlighted as extremely high in many South African communities.

STI's and unwanted pregnancies have resulted from the widespread practice of unsafe sex among the youth.
Aside from traditional from traditional gender roles, socio-economic factors have also been identified as playing a significant role in th barriers to safe sex practices.

A number of key studies in South Africa have placed their emphasis on how gender power relations affect the sexual relationships between women and men for example the fact that women lack negotiation skills when it comes to sex, and also are unable or ss likely to themselves initiate sex. They have instead inhibited socialised sexual practises which require women to be submissive and passive partners whereas men must be th ones initiating and active, thereby leading women in the realm of sexuality.

It has also been taken into account that during puberty, young men are challenged with strong pressure to take on a 'macho' masculinity, meaning that they need to learn how to repress and display their emotions.
The physical changes in ones ones body has multiple psychological correlations for young people and differs in each individual, depending on the responses from those around them.

Much of the literature points to the manner in which boys and girls experience the onset of puberty in different ways. However, in the South African context contemporary and historical studies have pointed to young girls experiencing puberty difficultly.

 The forced and immediate placement of girls into contraception and warnings against boys and men at the onset of menstruation are said to be most common in South African communities. These studies show how girl are shown to be in need of protection and guidance during their development because they are 'sexually vulnerable' to 'dangerous' male sexuality when menstruation begins.
This then teaches girls that they are vulnerable and passive to men and boys and that menstruation is something negative and therefore a dangerous transition.

As a consequent, young women are seldom prepared for sex relationships and do not have significant knowledge as well as a positive sexual identity.

Furthermore, young women are socially pressurerised to maintain an innocent image especially with men and being equipped with knowledge is misinterpreted as being sexually active. As a result, it is not easy for women to protect themselves against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV/AIDS, after protective measures have been taken, it would be explained and interpreted as them having an active sexual life.

On the other hand; boys seem positively socialised into their manhood with puberty signifying that they are considered to be sexually active. However so, manhood appears as heterosexually rigid and the ability to be sexual with many women. For example, when a 12 year old boy was asked what it means to b a man, he replied 'to have sex with a woman' those who do not conform to these standards may be criticized and stigmatized.
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Monday, January 11


Beware of fly by night colleges

Beware of fly by night colleges.

unhealthy colleges

part 1

It's that time of the year where parents are proud and nervous at the same time whilst the first year students are excited. It's very exciting to know that you are finally leaving home to be independent in your new world with no curfew nor chores.  In this exciting time most parents and their kids who didn't apply on time are desperate to settle for any course at any college. They end up forgeting to look into more important details. Just because a certain college is popular doesn't mean it's registered.

There is a possibility that a college may be registered but not all the courses in the college are registered. This needs to be double checked. You can get the credibility of a course at the Department of Education. A lot of parents have lost thousands of Rands that they paid to unregistered colleges and courses.  You get students going to class every single day and have sleepless nights preparing for exams only to find that there will be no Graduations after all the troubles and money lost. Do not settle for anything just because you don't want to have a gap year or just because you are keen to get the freedom away from parents. Do the right thing and check if everything is in order before paying for anything.  Congratulations and Good luck to our first years.

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Sunday, January 10


How to take care of your weave.

How to take care of your weave.

looking after you weave

part 1

I remember how excited I was when I bought my first Peruvian weave a couple of years ago. I was so thrilled and putting it on for the first time made me feel like some Black American woman. I loved how it feels,it's super silky and soft. I was told not to dye it with just any dye. Years passed by and I got tired of the same old dull colour on the weave. I decided to add a little excitement on it. I coloured it with blonde,from that day on I wish I never did that. It's still the most regretful thing of my entire life. The weave shrunk from 20 inch to 8 inch. It got really rough,from the silky hair to the scrub feel. I think it escalated from Peruvian to Ebony real quick.

From there on I learned that if anyone wants to add colour to their weaves then they should always use the powder dye that is sold at clicks. Funny thing is I went to a very expensive barber shop in Pretoria to add colour but it still damaged my weave. This days I do it my self with the powder dye I buy from any clicks store. To wash your weave at home use luke warm water and use Tressemme shampoo and conditioner and Do Not Blow dry or dry it with a towel just leave it to dry on its own.
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Raising children in the digital age.

Raising children in the digital age.

kids growing

part 1

It's a full time job being a parent and it can be overwhelming at times. Even with the tears and laughs it's still the greatest journey of all. I'm a mother of three and I'm in my early 50's.  During our time technology wasn't so advanced and we had fewer  gadgets but now everything revolves around technology.Everytime I buy a new phone o rely on my children to teach me how to operate it . Yes we get instruction books but it seems a little more complicated and the kids make it seem easier to use. I don't know how my life would have turned out if my children weren't a part of it in this much advanced technology age.

They learn about these things on the streets and sometimes on the Internet. I'm glad they are very smart when coming to technology but now the only problem I have is they are now addicted to it. My children would rather be on their Gadgets than spend  time with me. If I try to organise a little time with them then a minute into our conversation they then start looking into their Gadgets every two seconds until they eventually start looking into it none stop. Our conversations are usually distant conversations. When my 18 year old daughter fell pregnant I was shocked.She hardly goes anywhere after school and the one thing she's good at is starring at her gadgets all day.

I wouldn't be too shocked if Technology started impregnating our kids. Even indoor children now fall pregnant.  But other than that I'm grateful for my kids in this age because they are forever a great help to me. There's nothing they can not make right when I'm lost.
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Trust issues

Trust issues.

being faithful

part 1

If there's one thing that's keeping people together then I say it's loyalty and trust.  Some people take trust between each other too serious while others see it as one of those things that keeps time moving between two people. It's been said that trust us easily broken which may be true but then again some people tend to abuse the word. My personal experience with trust issues is raw.
I'm a person with a lot of friends,so I have realised that not everything between us requires trust. You see if you give someone information and tell me not to share it then they go right ahead and share then you can easily say the tryst has been broken.

It doesn't just end you react to the whole situation then describes how much of the trust was broken. This is reality check,its hard to trust even your own shadow so don't give much credit to those who don't deserve it. Stop saying people broke your trust even when you could have easily broken your own trust when you trusted them too much.

Trusting is one thing but to be trusted is the best. I have a problem with insecure partners. They are the reason there's a high statistic of trust issues in this world. Even friends experience that but more trust issues comes from the relationship side. Once there's no longer trust then there's no reason to stay so I fail to understand why people keep Complaining about no trust when they can just leave.
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Death divides loved ones - death can't be used to

Death divides loved ones.

I got married at a very young age, I was unsure at first because everyone kept on saying that marriage is hard. But luckily I got married to the most amazing and humble guy ever. We had our ups and downs but they weren't as bad as people said they would be. His family loved me like their own daughter. When we were all together you would never tell that I'm the daughter inlaw, a lot of people mistook me as my inlaw's blood daughter. That's how well we got along. My husband and I were like siblings, we were the bestest friends ever.  We were even named the nail and finger,too tight.

Unfortunately he got ill and passed away. It wasn't easy at all and it still isn't easy. While I was mourning his death on the mattress in the bedroom I shared with him, our families were brewing hate which I still don't understand how it began and I wish it never happened. He would know how to handle this mess,I miss him dearly. It started with my family end my inlaws and later my kids and I were involved.  My inlaws hated me deeply and they wanted nothing to do with me and my children.

It's what money can do to families, it divides them in split seconds.  They kept on saying I killed him for his money so I can spend it with other men . I lost my temper and chased them out of my house and asked them never to set foot in there ever again. They never set foot since the burial and when we meet in the streets we just walk past each other like we've never met. Sad part is my children are involved in scandals they don't even know of. I wish death could be accepted in our black society and stop looking for people to blame when our loved ones departs from us.

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